Basically, Tom chickened out. The end.
First off, sorry for our absence - we’ve been completely overwhelmed with school… we do go to MIT, after all. Second, we couldn’t just come back without some sort of grand “re-opening!” Although we haven’t had time to blog, that doesn’t mean we haven’t still been having sex and experimenting as much as usual. Experimenting a lot, in fact…. *cough*anal*cough*.
So without further ado, here is our How-To Guide to Anal Sex!
There are three key aspects:
Science time: The anus is a sphincter, which is muscle tissue that can contract to effectively squeeze poop out. Think of it as a valve. So the real pleasure of anal sex will come from moving the penis along the sphincter (think of it as a ring moving up and down on the penis). Both Veronica and I feel intense pleasure from this motion, so we promise it works!
Once you’re ready for anal, put on a condom (always wear a condom during anal sex to prevent infections) and apply lots of lube. More lube than you think you need. Lie on top of your partner, and slowly push your penis into her anus. Remember to always go extremely slowly and communicate.
Most importantly, HAVE FUN! Anal sex should never hurt - if it does, you’re going too fast or not using enough lube. And finally, remember to never double dip - put on a new condom when switching to vaginal sex.
We had a request to clarify the risks of pregnancy associated with period sex, and I feel that that would be appropriate. You can get pregnant if you have unprotected sex during your period. Sperm can live in the vagina for up to 5 days, and you can’t ever be completely sure of when you’re ovulating, so it is possible to get pregnant while on your period. Though a woman typically releases an egg 14 days into her cycle, it varies with each woman, and having unprotected sex during your period can result in pregnancy. So consider that risk before you make your choice.
I’ve gotten a few requests for a how-to post on going down on your woman.
While most guys are always down to enjoy some oral sex, girls are different. The mood has to be right, and you have to time it correctly in regards to sex.
Here’s a few opportunities to perform oral sex on your girl:
The key to oral sex is communication - make sure your partner wants it… and then give her what she wants!
When you first go down on your girl, start somewhat slow. Feel her clit with your fingers so you know exactly where it is, and gently lick her. Start with an up and down motion. As she starts to moan in pleasure, try bringing in a bit of sucking, but remember to never use your teeth. Just like you don’t want your girl biting your penis, she doesn’t want you biting her clit off.
For a bit of extra flare, stick a finger inside her while you’re sucking her clit and caressing it with the tip of your tongue.
It’s also important to note that the clit gets extremely sensitive right after your girl gets off, so be super gentle with your tongue.
Have fun!
PS: Veronica and I don’t use dental dams (a thin sheet of latex to help prevent from STDs), but you can definitely use them during oral sex if you are worried your partner isn’t STD-free.
I’ve had a few requests on a how-to or to share a few tips on blow jobs, so here goes. Sorry it’s been such a long time coming (pun always intended), but MIT has cracked down hard on us, and it’s been a little busy around here.
How to go about starting a blow job… Countless possibilities! Be creative! Say your guy comes in the door, and you’re feeling feisty: slowly unbutton his pants and pull them down, while you get on your knees and take him in your mouth. Or, say, you’re playing around, and you tie his hands behind his back and blindfold him, and go down when he’s not expecting anything. Or, you slip under the sheets as you’re fooling around and go down on him. You get my drift. Whatever feels right, fits the mood, and whatever you feel comfortable doing.
So, the actual blow job. I remember the first time I went down on Tom. It was all planned out in my head, it was going to be amazing, it was going to blow his mind, and I was excited. I’ll admit, I was a little bit nervous. Especially when I wiggled down under the sheets and saw this hard penis in my face. I just went for it. I hadn’t exactly practiced, and I wasn’t ready for how much stuff was in my mouth. It was hard to breath, and I had to consciously think about not choking and gagging. Needless to say, things have gotten better. So, some tips for you ladies out there:
Those are the basics. You can always get a little wild with it, as with anything. Use your imagination.
On the spit vs. swallow issue… I personally swallow. It’s easier, I don’t have to look for a place to spit, and I know Tom thinks it’s hot, especially when I keep sucking gently after he’s done. The first time, it was instinctive to swallow because it shot out deep in my throat, and I hardly tasted it. So that’s what I do. I can see the other side, too. It’s kind of gross… weird consistency, bitter/salty taste… yeah. You can spit discreetly into a tissue, and bite into a lemon or use mouthwash to get the taste out of your mouth. Or, you don’t even have to let him come in your mouth, just finish him up with your hand. Or use blow jobs as part of foreplay, and then there’s no possibility for sperm in your mouth. It doesn’t increase a guy’s pleasure if you swallow, so don’t feel pressured to if you don’t want to.
Thank you guys for being patient with us when school gets us down! Much appreciated.